The bridal shower is a fun way to get together in celebration of the bride-to-be’s newly engaged status—without the guest list being limited to just the bridal party or wedding attendees. It’s a chance for the couple’s nearest and dearest to shower the bride and groom with gifts to jumpstart their newlywed life together. Often a bridesmaid, close family friend, or relative will ask, or offer, to host a shower. And while these events are often female-focused (and engagement parties are considered the co-ed celebration), there are no official rules here. Our advice: Do what works for you.