With wedding spending, it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture — in Bitterman’s view, when you’re looking at spending the rest of your life with your spouse, a single day shouldn’t put you in debt. “I see a lot of people who finance these events with a credit card, or take money from their investment accounts. They see what everyone else is doing, and they assume they need to keep up, rather than talking about what they can really afford. But would you rather set yourself up for a solid financial future together, or have a big party?”