When to Send Save-the-Dates: Every Question Answered

Save the Date

Congratulations! He popped the question and you said yes! Now what? One of the first wedding-planning tasks brides must take on is save-the-dates. But…many questions come to mind. You’re probably wondering when to send save-the-dates, who to send save-the-dates to, etc. Read on to get answers to all your questions about etiquette concerning the first piece of wedding stationery you’ll send out!

Do I have to send save-the-dates?

Nope. But we recommend you do for a few reasons:

  1. Your friends and family will appreciate the heads-up.
  2. You’re more likely to have first dibs on guests who know other brides getting married on the same day.
  3. They’re a great way to get everyone excited about your wedding—and to get your own creativity flowing early in the planning process!

When should I send the save-the-dates?

Send out save-the-date cards six to eight months prior to your wedding and the wedding invitations eight weeks before your big day. Not only do some people have to make travel arrangements and save money, some guests will need to get time off from their jobs, arrange child care, and/or take care of other pesky chores so they can join you.

When should I send the save-the-dates for a destination wedding?

If you are throwing a destination wedding or getting married on a major holiday, you should give guests extra notice by sending your save-the-dates out nine months to a year in advance. Better yet, as soon as you’ve chosen a venue and set up your wedding website (with a hotel room block), get those save-the-dates in the mail! No one will complain about extra time to book flights and reserve a hotel room.

Who should I send the save-the-dates to?

Anyone you’re sure you’re going to invite. Do not mail save-the-date cards to guests on your B-list: Once they receive a save-the-date, you’re obligated to send them a wedding invitation too.

Is it OK to send electronic save-the-dates?

One of the main reasons to email your save-the-date is convenience. Traditional save-the-date cards require ordering, proofing, printing, waiting for delivery, addressing, applying postage, and physical mailing, all of which can take weeks. And since most online stationery sites (like Paperless PostMinted, and Shutterfly’s Wedding Shop) are so easy to navigate, you can select and pay for your design within an hour flat, all with a few clicks.

But, of course, there may be a few bumps along the road: Your e-card may get filtered into guests’ spam folder, or perhaps the email address you have is one they no longer check. So delivery is not always 100 percent guaranteed. Also, there’s the tangibility factor: When you mail a paper save-the-date, guests will likely tack it up somewhere in their home or office so it will serve as a reminder of the wedding to come. And some of your guests may not even have email (think: your grandparents), so you will need to spread the word some other way. Another thing to consider is the formality of your wedding. One function of the save-the-date is to give your guests a little glimpse of the wedding to come. So, the more formal the wedding, the more likely a printed card will set the tone you want your wedding to have.

What information should I include on the save-the-date card?

Include the bride’s and groom’s name, of course, along with the date of the wedding, the location, the wedding website, and a note that says “invitation to follow.”

For a destination wedding, the save-the-date card includes information on the hotel, travel arrangements, etc.

For a weekend wedding, the save-the-date may include the itinerary for the weekend. For example: cocktails on Friday night, wedding on Saturday, and Sunday-morning brunch. The save-the-date will give the time and location for each of these events and sometimes even include the dress code, giving guests an opportunity to plan activities and their wardrobe.

Do I have to send someone a wedding invitation if I sent them a save-the-date?

It’s an absolute must to send a wedding invitation to anyone who received a save-the-date announcement. There’s a clear expectation when a save-the-date card is received that an invitation will follow; failing to send one is essentially the same as uninviting a guest—which is unacceptable. If finances have become an issue since the save-the-dates were sent, the answer is to cut back on the scale of catering, music, or flowers instead of on people already planning to come.

Does your save-the-date card need to match the rest of your wedding stationery?

First and foremost, a save-the-date card is meant to get family and friends excited about the upcoming wedding, so it does not have to match the rest of the wedding stationery. The easiest way to have all the elements of the wedding stationery match is to repeat and carry through a certain motif, color, or design in the entire invitation ensemble.


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